Hi, my name is Pauline Durban and I'm the founder of cabotparticlematters,
a small business dedicated to providing fashion for mature women.
I felt the need to write this article after constantly seeing nasty comments online.
Social media is an interesting animal. It allows us to keep in touch with friends and family all around the world. We get to see what they have for dinner, what restaurants they are visiting as well as all the amazing pictures of their children, or in our case, it’s often grandchildren.
cabotparticlematters has been able to grow by getting the word out, via social media, so for that, I will be forever grateful. However: social media also has a dark side. It allows people to hide behind their computers and say mean things about companies and people!
They say things on social media that they wouldn’t dream of saying in a store or face to face. I know many of my blogger friends have experienced negative comments from just plain mean people, who it seems their mission in life is to bring other women down.
Women supporting women is the only way to go! The women’s clothes that I have designed won’t be for everyone, that’s a fact. I visit many stores online and don’t buy anything. However; I would never dream of telling them I don’t like their products, or that they are too expensive…I just move on.
Would you go up to the owner or manager of a store and tell them that you don't like their clothes? Of course not! Then there's no need to leave a comment on anything that you have had no experience with.
On the Facebook page of a major online retailer, I saw a request asking that no negative comments be posted as they like to encourage a positive environment. It's sad that they even have to say that. I’m pretty sure that they delete negative comments and ban the poster. Good for them!
For women to post some of the things that I have seen is inexcusable. I have got into the habit of posting this article as a reply. Some still want to argue, some say sorry and delete their comment. If you have arrived here after posting one of these comments. Please think before you do this to any company. It doesn't show you in a very good light.
cabotparticlematters is a small, woman-owned company and negative comments can hurt us and any small business. If it's genuine, I'm happy to leave it there, but when it's a totally inaccurate comment made or posted by someone who hasn't even tried our product, they will be deleted.
If they come back with another one, they will be banned.
Cyberbullying among teens is a major problem. I ask you, what kind of example are these "adults" setting for the younger generation?
It’s very sad when women feel the need to tear other women down. Especially when they post derogatory messages on blogger sites, who, for the most part, dedicate their time free. To leave mean comments on their pages is just rude, the women who do this, in my opinion, have no class!
It’s so much better to be supportive and build each other up. Women empowering women is a much better way to go.
What happened to – “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything”? I guess we should be sympathetic and believe that they are going through tough times. Why else would they post mean things? What does it achieve, does it make them feel better. We will never know. Oh well.
Don’t get me wrong, people leave nice comments all the time, which I thoroughly appreciate, and I see a lot of nice comments all over social media.
Now if we could just stop the mean people… I would love to hear your (nice) comments.
Founder/President at cabotparticlematters
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